scratch notes:
non-momentum, non-reactivity —> still receptivity + omnidirectionality — in conversation and interaction
Spontaneously (non-censoring, non-deliberately, non-reflectively, non-doing-ly, non-thinking-ly, non-filter-ing-ly), nonviolently, benevolently AND Add to many prot: Don’t act guskin book, impro book, all book recs from emo book, religion of tomorrow book, Clint fuhs thing, excerpt C, gigagloss appendix, cook grueter 2 things, else? After the honeymoon, after the fight [representational transference shadow stuff???] Philosophical investigations
What if I want to do/say/express that I want / dont want to e.g. fuck, violate, harm, love, or do something shameful, embarrassing, illegal, antisocial
see x-desires and
- appendix 9: gricean and yin-yang analysis
- appendix 10: communicating feelings (spicy) (draft)
- appendix 11: language and the "causal body" (scratch; draft)
- appendix 12: language and perspective taking (scratch; draft)
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Safe/unsafe good/bad ok/not-ok necessary/permitted/forbidden green/yellow/red for them to:
do, don’t, may, please:
- believe [X] about me/you
- think [X] about me/you
- get/become/feel [X] about me/you
- feel [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
- think [X] about me/you
- express [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
- [do] [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
- [be] [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
- assert [X] [e.g. about me/you] to me/you
- assume [X]
- lie about [X] to me/you
- vibe [X] to me/you
- know [X] about me/you
- say/tell [X] to me/you [e.g. about me/you]
- ask me/you [X]
- request [X] of or from me/you [could be denied etc.]
- emote [X] to me/you
- express [X] to me/you
- to inform me/you of [X]
- May/might I please e.g. Y X of you?
- Would/could/might you please e.g. Y X of me?
- Would/could/might you please permit me to e.g. Y X of you?
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bib:
- Structure of magic
- Deep and surface anaphora
- guskin
- transpersonal actor
- Guskin, Harold. How to stop acting. Macmillan, 2003.
- radical honesty
- (transpersonal acting book (maybe) ned medina or whatever maybe)
- Guskin, Harold. How to stop acting. Macmillan, 2003.
- Johnstone, Keith. Impro: Improvisation and the theatre. Routledge, 2012.
- Wile, Daniel B. After the fight: Using your disagreements to build a stronger relationship. Guilford Press, 1995.
- Wile, Daniel B. "After the honeymoon: How conflict can improve your relationship." (1988).
- Fruzzetti, Alan. The high-conflict couple: A dialectical behavior therapy guide to finding peace, intimacy, and validation. New Harbinger Publications, 2006.