# <a id="scratch-notes" href="https://globway.top/s/scratch-notes">scratch notes:</a> non-momentum, non-reactivity —> still receptivity + omnidirectionality — in conversation and interaction Spontaneously (non-censoring, non-deliberately, non-reflectively, non-doing-ly, non-thinking-ly, non-filter-ing-ly), nonviolently, benevolently AND Add to many prot: Don’t act guskin book, impro book, all book recs from emo book, religion of tomorrow book, Clint fuhs thing, excerpt C, gigagloss appendix, cook grueter 2 things, else? After the honeymoon, after the fight [representational transference shadow stuff???] Philosophical investigations What if I want to do/say/express that I want / dont want to e.g. fuck, violate, harm, love, or do something shameful, embarrassing, illegal, antisocial see x-desires and * <a href="https://globway.top/s/appendix-9-gricean-yin-yang-analysis">appendix 9: gricean and yin-yang analysis</a> * <a href="https://globway.top/s/appendix-10-communicating-feelings">appendix 10: communicating feelings (spicy) (draft)</a> * <a href="https://globway.top/s/appendix-11-language-causal-body">appendix 11: language and the "causal body" (scratch; draft)</a> * <a href="https://globway.top/s/appendix-12-language-and-perspective-taking">appendix 12: language and perspective taking (scratch; draft)</a> \*\*\* Safe/unsafe good/bad ok/not-ok necessary/permitted/forbidden green/yellow/red for them to: do, don’t, may, please: * believe \[X] about me/you * think \[X] about me/you * get/become/feel \[X] about me/you * feel \[X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you * think \[X] about me/you * express \[X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you * \[do] \[X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you * \[be] \[X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you * assert \[X] \[e.g. about me/you] to me/you * assume \[X] * lie about \[X] to me/you * vibe \[X] to me/you * know \[X] about me/you * say/tell \[X] to me/you \[e.g. about me/you] * ask me/you \[X] * request \[X] of or from me/you \[could be denied etc.] * emote \[X] to me/you * express \[X] to me/you * to inform me/you of \[X]  * May/might I please e.g. Y X of you? * Would/could/might you please e.g. Y X of me? * Would/could/might you please permit me to e.g. Y X of you? \*\*\* bib: * Structure of magic * Deep and surface anaphora * guskin * transpersonal actor * Guskin, Harold. How to stop acting. Macmillan, 2003. * radical honesty * (transpersonal acting book (maybe) ned medina or whatever maybe) * Guskin, Harold. How to stop acting. Macmillan, 2003. * Johnstone, Keith. Impro: Improvisation and the theatre. Routledge, 2012. * Wile, Daniel B. After the fight: Using your disagreements to build a stronger relationship. Guilford Press, 1995. * Wile, Daniel B. "After the honeymoon: How conflict can improve your relationship." (1988). * Fruzzetti, Alan. The high-conflict couple: A dialectical behavior therapy guide to finding peace, intimacy, and validation. New Harbinger Publications, 2006.

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scratch notes:

non-momentum, non-reactivity —> still receptivity + omnidirectionality — in conversation and interaction

Spontaneously (non-censoring, non-deliberately, non-reflectively, non-doing-ly, non-thinking-ly, non-filter-ing-ly), nonviolently, benevolently AND Add to many prot: Don’t act guskin book, impro book, all book recs from emo book, religion of tomorrow book, Clint fuhs thing, excerpt C, gigagloss appendix, cook grueter 2 things, else? After the honeymoon, after the fight [representational transference shadow stuff???] Philosophical investigations

What if I want to do/say/express that I want / dont want to e.g. fuck, violate, harm, love, or do something shameful, embarrassing, illegal, antisocial

see x-desires and

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Safe/unsafe good/bad ok/not-ok necessary/permitted/forbidden green/yellow/red for them to:
do, don’t, may, please:

believe [X] about me/you
think [X] about me/you
get/become/feel [X] about me/you
feel [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
think [X] about me/you
express [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
[do] [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
[be] [X] near/around/at/with/for/to me/you
assert [X] [e.g. about me/you] to me/you
assume [X]
lie about [X] to me/you
vibe [X] to me/you
know [X] about me/you
say/tell [X] to me/you [e.g. about me/you]
ask me/you [X]
request [X] of or from me/you [could be denied etc.]
emote [X] to me/you
express [X] to me/you
to inform me/you of [X]

May/might I please e.g. Y X of you?
Would/could/might you please e.g. Y X of me?
Would/could/might you please permit me to e.g. Y X of you?

***

bib:

Structure of magic
Deep and surface anaphora
guskin
transpersonal actor
Guskin, Harold. How to stop acting. Macmillan, 2003.
radical honesty
(transpersonal acting book (maybe) ned medina or whatever maybe)
Guskin, Harold. How to stop acting. Macmillan, 2003.
Johnstone, Keith. Impro: Improvisation and the theatre. Routledge, 2012.
Wile, Daniel B. After the fight: Using your disagreements to build a stronger relationship. Guilford Press, 1995.
Wile, Daniel B. "After the honeymoon: How conflict can improve your relationship." (1988).
Fruzzetti, Alan. The high-conflict couple: A dialectical behavior therapy guide to finding peace, intimacy, and validation. New Harbinger Publications, 2006.

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